Another curve in the Road

The other day, i got a call from my work telling me that the woman who works full time evenings has just quit. My manager asked if i would be interested in working the full time position until they can find and train someone. Seeing as how we are moving and could use all the money we can get, i reluctantly said yes. The biggest problem that i have with this arrangement is that Lee works days, which means that we will hardly get to see each other.

For those of you who have followed along for a while have probably caught on to the fact that i am a pretty hands on submissive type, meaning that i do best when i'm being actively dominated by Lee. i love/crave the physical stuff…. like serving Her dinner, sitting at Her feet, kneeling at the door when She comes home, that kind of stuff. Even the domestic stuff that i do when She is at work has an element of hands on because i like when She inspects what i have done when She gets home.

This "separation" is going to be hard on both of us. But on the other hand maybe it will help us build our relationship in a way that will be less obvious. That would come in very handy when we move.

Another implication of working full time is that i probably won't have much time to write. Nor will i have much to say, unless you want to hear about my day at work, which is not the reason you're here LOL! They are not exciting, trust me when i say that you don't want to hear about it!

Birthday Bash

This weekend was amazing!!! It was Sagacity's 11th Birthday Bash and Lee and i had a great time!!!

Friday night there was a Formal and Fetish meet and greet party that was supposed to have an amazing MindFuck presentation that had to be cancelled due to bylaw restrictions. The alternate was still good but i had been looking forward to seeing the Mindfuck as i had heard that the past ones had been a thrill.

During the day on Saturday there were workshops. The presenters were super; knowledgeable, funny (when appropriate, of course), informative, everything that you want someone who you have to listen to talk for an hour or more to be.  Lee and i attended the 101 and 201 energy workshops, command and control (it dealt a lot with building trust), vaginal fisting, resistance play (brats, interrogations, takedowns/kidnapping and rape play) and fear play workshops.  i think my favourite workshop was either resistance play or command and control.

We won a few prizes from the silent auction, a pair of red lambskin fingerless gauntlets (aka "Vixen Sleeves") from a local corset maker, a rubber paddle from a local paddle maker and a gift basket with a rubber slapper, leather slapper, 2 glass dildos, a book of BDSM erotica and some clit stimulation sprays. The value of the items that we won was about $300 and we got them all for $154!!! Lee also bought a stem ball gag like this one.

Saturday night was the play party. It was in the penthouse floor of the hotel which offered beautiful city views, if you could look past the gorgeous people having so much fun ;) The fact that it was in the penthouses made it that there were many stations but they were divided into many rooms which made it feel more private and cosy than the wide open dungeon space. Lee even mentioned that if more play parties were set up like this She could see us playing at one in the future, which surprised me.  i wore the gauntlets to the party as they matched my outfit quite nicely. What i didn't think of until after i had them on was that they prevented me from being able to bend my elbows….which meant that  i had to have Lee pour my drinks in my mouth and feed  me my snack! Sometimes She would tease me and start to pour but not actually give me even a drop, sometimes She would pour so much that i was worried that it would choke me. I think She got quite a bit of fun out of it! It kept me in a submissive mind frame very well, to the point that i started drifting off a bit when Madam kissed me passionately.

Before leaving the hotel, Lee told me that we weren't going to play (She had been drinking), which, i was kind of sad about but completely understood. But She did say that She was okay to fuck me. By the time we got home and unwound for a few minutes  Madam had "sobered up" and changed Her mind. She hauled me up off the couch to the bedroom. There i was photographed before  Madam began using one of Her new toys on me. i have nicknamed the rubber slapper the "Caramel-Coloured Fuck Stick". That damned thing stings!! i got hit from head to toe pretty much by the C-CFS and i will say that there is nowhere that it touched that it felt nice. It did, for some reason,  make me very wet though! Which Madam proceeded to make me lick off Her finger. She then filled my ass with Her cock and fucked it while slapping it with C-CFS. After an explosive orgasm, i was undressed, Madam spread my thighs straddled my pussy . We don't scissor often, i'm not sure why that is. It was so amazing to feel Her heat and wetness mixing with mine. i hope that we do it more often.

One thing that i love so much about Madam is how much care She shows me after either sex or play. She hold me and kisses me and tells me She loves me. She is gentle and sweet, She doesn't rush me or get upset if it takes me longer to come down than usual. At the party last night, we saw a "top" that wasn't like that at all . There was no aftercare and the "top" was, what i thought, rude to the "bottom" to the point of almost being disrespectful. It was quite clear to both Lee and i that the "bottom" needed some  time to recover, some reassurance, something, anything. We avoided the room that they were playing in because we don't like their style of play or dynamic to begin with (we've seen them play together before). When i saw that they were finished their scene, i thought it was safe to go in the room. When i saw the lack of aftercare i was almost appalled to the point where i wanted to go over and hold the poor "bottom". Even during one of the daytime workshops, the "top" had volunteered the "bottom" to demo something that clearly the "bottom" wasn't interested in doing and, in front of the whole group, the "top" stated to the "bottom" "Don't embarrass me". The "bottom" wasn't doing anything to warrant a comment like that. (i don't know how these people identify which is part of the reason that i used the quotation marks and i clearly avoided gendered pronouns to avoid giving details that could indicate who these people are).

And before anyone jumps in that every couple is allowed to have their own style and negotiate about aftercare, yes, i do agree but even if you're not into aftercare or you're not a touchy-feely kind of person the "top" should still be kind in the way that he/she speaks to their "bottom", especially after a scene. Okay, i could clearly rant on about this for quite some time but i need to get some stuff done around here today! LOL!!