Fall From Grace Weekend Review

Master and i went to Fall From Grace this past weekend. For those who don't know, it's a local kinky camping event. We had such a great time. We had a bunch wonderful new experiences and Master learned a few new tricks and got a few new toys to add to Her goodie bag!

Friday evening was busy. i don't think i retained much from the demo on asphyxiation that evening. We arrived just as things were getting started so after the demo then we had to go set up camp for the weekend. Not much exciting for me to report, i'll let Lee tell you about what She did.

Saturday was a blast- we sat around like kids at camp and had crafts time, except that we made floggers instead of the stuff kids make! Then it was the water torture demo. i'm writing a separate post about that event so if you want to know more read it. The fireside chat that evening got rained out, which was too bad cause i was interested in hearing other people's perspectives on the topic, Love and SM. Hung out in the dungeon for a bit and watched a few scenes while it rained then went back to sit by the fire again after the rain stopped and with a big group of people on a whole variety of topics.

Sunday was great too. In the afternoon we watched a stapling demo and Lee got to try that out on the demo bottom (for sterility reasons the staplers can't be shared and thus not tried on anyone else). Again, i will let Master share Her own thoughts and feelings on the experience. i think it could be a fun way to do temporary chastity piercings.

Later that day a friend showed Master how to do some basic needle play. i've been curious about needle play for years. About four years ago at a fetish night at the local gay bar where we were living i had 4 needles put in my chest at a demo station. While the needles felt good it was very clinical feeling. Ever since then i have wanted Master to try so it was great for Her to finally have a chance to learn. She did a button of three on one side of my chest while our friend did the same on the other side as well as one on my sternum. He tried to do one through my breast just under my nipple but that was hurting a bit too much so that didn't happen this time. Then he walked Lee through doing some on my labia, which She did two there. i'm surprised how relaxed and comfortable i felt. Lee played with me a bit after the needles were in and it was a delicious feeling and from what i could tell it looked like Master enjoyed Herself as well. We kept half the box of needles so that's a good sign that they will be added to the play repertoire. Yay for me!!

Monday was the wrap up- the organizers of the event sat down with those people who were still around to ask their opinions of the weekend-what worked, what didn't etc. i think that was a great idea and i'm sure helps ensure that people have a good time and come back. i also engaged in some non consensual play with one of the tent pegs from our friends' tent. i caught it between my second and third toes on the right foot and ended up with a bruise on my foot and a cut between my toes. It was not pleasant but luckily it was at the end of the weekend rather than the beginning.

Master and i had two rough body play scenes over the weekend, both in the middle of the field where some of the tents were set up. The first one was on Saturday early in the night while most of the other campers were at a bastinado demo. After dinner we went for a walk to the creek that was close to us but it started to storm and the lightening was getting closer so we headed back. i'm not sure exactly what happened but just as we're getting close to the tent Master starts beating on me. She used her fists, feet, knees, and any other part of Her body that She could. The rain was spitting a bit and the cold water felt both wonderful and torturous at the same time. It also made the grass slippery so i ended up on the ground quite a bit. i don't know how long it went on for (20ish minutes?) but seemed to have ended as organically as it started.

The second one was before the needles on Sunday afternoon. Again, not too sure exactly how this one happened but i kinda think i might have egged Her on a bit. That time She went and grabbed Her toy bag and also used Thumper (it's a rope ball at the one end and the rope loops at the other-i assume for it's for throwing? It feels like a fist when Master hits me with it that's all that matters!!), The Mother Fucker (a short thick heavy rubber impact implement that is both thuddy and stingy at the same time and hurts like... a mother fucker) and a thick cane that we got at FFG from NoirLuna. Between the two scenes i ended up with some delightful bruises, mostly on my one arm but there are a few on my other arm, my shoulders, ass and thighs. A picture of the bruise on my right arm is on my fetlife profile.

i'm sure i'm forgetting stuff and maybe when Lee gets around to writing Her version of events She will fill in blanks for me. All in all we had a fantastic time and are already looking forward to next year.

Birthday Bash

This weekend was amazing!!! It was Sagacity's 11th Birthday Bash and Lee and i had a great time!!!

Friday night there was a Formal and Fetish meet and greet party that was supposed to have an amazing MindFuck presentation that had to be cancelled due to bylaw restrictions. The alternate was still good but i had been looking forward to seeing the Mindfuck as i had heard that the past ones had been a thrill.

During the day on Saturday there were workshops. The presenters were super; knowledgeable, funny (when appropriate, of course), informative, everything that you want someone who you have to listen to talk for an hour or more to be.  Lee and i attended the 101 and 201 energy workshops, command and control (it dealt a lot with building trust), vaginal fisting, resistance play (brats, interrogations, takedowns/kidnapping and rape play) and fear play workshops.  i think my favourite workshop was either resistance play or command and control.

We won a few prizes from the silent auction, a pair of red lambskin fingerless gauntlets (aka "Vixen Sleeves") from a local corset maker, a rubber paddle from a local paddle maker and a gift basket with a rubber slapper, leather slapper, 2 glass dildos, a book of BDSM erotica and some clit stimulation sprays. The value of the items that we won was about $300 and we got them all for $154!!! Lee also bought a stem ball gag like this one.

Saturday night was the play party. It was in the penthouse floor of the hotel which offered beautiful city views, if you could look past the gorgeous people having so much fun ;) The fact that it was in the penthouses made it that there were many stations but they were divided into many rooms which made it feel more private and cosy than the wide open dungeon space. Lee even mentioned that if more play parties were set up like this She could see us playing at one in the future, which surprised me.  i wore the gauntlets to the party as they matched my outfit quite nicely. What i didn't think of until after i had them on was that they prevented me from being able to bend my elbows….which meant that  i had to have Lee pour my drinks in my mouth and feed  me my snack! Sometimes She would tease me and start to pour but not actually give me even a drop, sometimes She would pour so much that i was worried that it would choke me. I think She got quite a bit of fun out of it! It kept me in a submissive mind frame very well, to the point that i started drifting off a bit when Madam kissed me passionately.

Before leaving the hotel, Lee told me that we weren't going to play (She had been drinking), which, i was kind of sad about but completely understood. But She did say that She was okay to fuck me. By the time we got home and unwound for a few minutes  Madam had "sobered up" and changed Her mind. She hauled me up off the couch to the bedroom. There i was photographed before  Madam began using one of Her new toys on me. i have nicknamed the rubber slapper the "Caramel-Coloured Fuck Stick". That damned thing stings!! i got hit from head to toe pretty much by the C-CFS and i will say that there is nowhere that it touched that it felt nice. It did, for some reason,  make me very wet though! Which Madam proceeded to make me lick off Her finger. She then filled my ass with Her cock and fucked it while slapping it with C-CFS. After an explosive orgasm, i was undressed, Madam spread my thighs straddled my pussy . We don't scissor often, i'm not sure why that is. It was so amazing to feel Her heat and wetness mixing with mine. i hope that we do it more often.

One thing that i love so much about Madam is how much care She shows me after either sex or play. She hold me and kisses me and tells me She loves me. She is gentle and sweet, She doesn't rush me or get upset if it takes me longer to come down than usual. At the party last night, we saw a "top" that wasn't like that at all . There was no aftercare and the "top" was, what i thought, rude to the "bottom" to the point of almost being disrespectful. It was quite clear to both Lee and i that the "bottom" needed some  time to recover, some reassurance, something, anything. We avoided the room that they were playing in because we don't like their style of play or dynamic to begin with (we've seen them play together before). When i saw that they were finished their scene, i thought it was safe to go in the room. When i saw the lack of aftercare i was almost appalled to the point where i wanted to go over and hold the poor "bottom". Even during one of the daytime workshops, the "top" had volunteered the "bottom" to demo something that clearly the "bottom" wasn't interested in doing and, in front of the whole group, the "top" stated to the "bottom" "Don't embarrass me". The "bottom" wasn't doing anything to warrant a comment like that. (i don't know how these people identify which is part of the reason that i used the quotation marks and i clearly avoided gendered pronouns to avoid giving details that could indicate who these people are).

And before anyone jumps in that every couple is allowed to have their own style and negotiate about aftercare, yes, i do agree but even if you're not into aftercare or you're not a touchy-feely kind of person the "top" should still be kind in the way that he/she speaks to their "bottom", especially after a scene. Okay, i could clearly rant on about this for quite some time but i need to get some stuff done around here today! LOL!!

Changes are happening

Lee and i have decided that we need to make some adjustments to the way we have been operating. For the last few days we even paused the D/s part of our relationship, last night was the first time i have worn Her collar since Saturday.

We jumped into 24/7 very quickly without giving ourselves and each other time to adjust to the huge changes that power exchange has on a couple, especially one that had been vanilla to start with. Neither one of us were "naturals" in our roles, as i have mentioned time and time again, so there was/is a steep learning curve involved as well.

Last night we had a really good talk about where to go from here. Lee has been busy the last few days reading and trying to come up with a "game plan" for us. We have decided to take a big step back and really focus building a stronger more stable foundation that we can build on. We are going to concentrate our efforts on things that Lee and i feel are important to our dynamic and toss the stuff that we thought was important in the beginning but turns out means little to nothing to either one of us.

For now we are going to leave the rules that we had posted on this blog up but we are not following them for the most part. In case you care to see what rituals/protocols/rules we have i am going to post an update on that page.

One thing we didn't talk about too much was how me going back to work is going to affect things like chores. When i was at work the last two days Lee did them but i would like to get into a routine of doing them myself more once i get used to working again (holy crap am i not used to it right now lol!!!). Of course i will probably need Her help once in a while but if we’re both working then those responsibilities will fall to me more so.


Getting to kneel before Madam and say my mantra this morning was such an incredible feeling, i have missed it so much and realize now how much i took what She did do for granted. i was so focused on what she/i/we weren't doing the way i wanted that i overlooked what we were doing that i enjoyed. i need to (and am going to work much harder to) keep that in mind when i feel like things aren't 100%. Just because some things aren't perfect doesn't meant that everything is terrible. i am trying to work on that attitude for not only our dynamic but in general as i have a tendency to "throw the baby out with the bath water".

So if you’re interested the update please check it out on the page that has been re-titled Rules, Rituals and Protocols.

Oh and one other thing... We're going to our first play party-Domlander-this weekend! We don't plan on playing, we're just going to see the show, socialize and watch others play. (there's a fashion show and comedic competition before the actual play party) i promise to give a review of how it went ;)

And, as always, please feel free to leave comments, suggestions or questions on this or any other post. And if you like what you read here please follow or subscribe to our blog.