30 Days of Kink Days 1 & 2 Take Two

We have been quite busy lately, with what I don't know but somehow it is already the end of February, and our writing has gotten a bit behind. I hope to be changing that and getting us onto a somewhat regular schedule. I'm not really going to give any kind of update today though, but will shortly. For now, we have decided to work through the 30 days of kink questions and will be posting our answers together. elle started answering these questions a few years back so it will be interesting to see what kind of changes we will see. You can find her original thirteen in the archives.

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

Lee - I am a Master in a power exchange marriage. I have been slow to find my place as a Master because, unlike most in this lifestyle, I don't feel this was the 'role' I was born into. I have a pretty easy going to the point of passive personality which is quite in conflict with our dynamic. However, we could not live any other way. I've had a tendency to let people wipe their shoes on my back and have felt very unappreciated and used because of it. Neither of us wanted that in our relationship. I needed to take the control and be able to say 'no', to have elle show her devotion to me through submission and service, and to grow into a stronger person. Living 24/7 M/s has made me feel more appreciated and cared for then I ever have before. elle is my most prized possession.

I am also a Daddy. It is in our Daddy/girl times that I take much more direct care of my girl, where I can dote on her and make her feel extra special...and sometimes I violate her innocence. Having a Daddy side helps balance our dynamic in that it gives us some time to interact on a very casual level. The power exchange is always there but elle serves in a more helping Daddy out kind of way rather than through orders and rules - even if she is doing the same thing.

elle - I am an owned slave, property. More accurately, I am 24/7 live-in slave married to my Master. M/s and power exchange is how Lee and I live our lives together and the guiding principle of our relationship. I have surrendered myself to Master and thrive in being of service to Her. My day-to-day life is also influenced by our M/s dynamic, for example, I ask Lee before accepting extra shifts at work. In all things I do, I am her slave first and foremost.

I also have a little side, though I don’t really consider myself to be a little per se. I don’t have an exact age as a little, I find that my “little age” seems to fluctuate depending on the situation. Although in the beginning our Daddy/girl dynamic was nonsexual, it has changed over time and now we do incorporate age play in our sex on occasion.

Day 2: List your kinks.

elle - For us kink is how we play. So my answer will be based upon that. When it comes to play, I'd say that my main kink is pain. I’m a masochist; I love rough body play (especially when I get to fight back) and heavy impact stuff. Pretty much anything that’s going to leave me with deep purple bruises when we’re finished is right up my alley.

I enjoy many other activities though - sexual use/ownership including forced sex or rape play and orgasm restrictions, choking and breath play, psychological play (either mindfucks or humiliation), bondage and/or restraint.

My all-time favourite toys are Lee’s hands, fists, boots and voice.

Lee - Defining my kinks is a bit hard. I love making elle moan, scream, cringe and whimper, however that may be accomplished. Quite often that is done through rough body play (punching, kicking, slapping) which is my favorite activity. There is a lot of power behind pulling back and kicking your slave as she lay on the floor. It's intoxicating. I have a sadistic streak and love giving elle pain and really enjoy the day or two following when bruises are fresh on her arms and I can give her a tight hug and kiss while hurting her at the same time. I love having physical struggles with her and overpowering her; the more she fights back the more I can get out of my head and into the moment. Rape play or CNC is wonderful. Bondage and breath play. Humiliation play such using the ball gag to make her drool and derogatory name calling and making her admit to being or liking such things is really fun, as is making her beg for something she starts off saying she doesn't like or want. Just to name a few.

Check back soon for more answers.