Stuck in a Rut

Lee and i have had a couple of conversations about Her being unsure about what to do in a scene in the last few days (when we have played recently She seems to get fixated on one activity and focuses the entire scene around it). We were talking about why this is happening and She told me that She feels like She has to come up with new things every time or at least new ways of doing things we have done before. She admitted that She gets overwhelmed with the idea of coming up with new ideas which makes it even harder for Her to come with ideas.

i told Her that i don’t expect things to be new each time we play, that eventually we’ll run out of things to do if that were the case. For me the problem that i see is that, as i mentioned She does one thing to the exclusion of everything else. For example, the other day i told Her that i had been craving a hard beating and the play that ensued was me laying face down and Her paddling my ass.

i feel like i am sounding ungrateful for what She does give me but i do think that i have the right to say when our play is not “meeting my needs” so to speak.

In trying to help Her i started listing off scene ideas and i can’t remember them all but i thought I’d list them again here so we have a written list that we can go back to and say “oh yeah, we had mentioned trying that”. So the list that follows is some of the suggestions for playing that i/we came up with and any other that i think of as i write.

• interrogation-one of us write a number (or something else) on a slip of paper. Madam has X amount of time to get me to say what it is... more of a mindfuck if She was the one to write the secret
• "the numbers game"-roll a die/dice of in some other way choose a number. Do that number of activities for that number of minutes each (ie: rolled a 5 so do 5 activities; tickle with a feather, cane, make me give oral sex, ice play, bare hand spank)
• Roleplay
• Theme scene-pick one type of activity and do it in many variations (ie: sensation play-tickle, ice, warm/hot wax, scratching, sandpaper) (ie: impact play-laying and standing, bound and free, hard and soft with various implements)
• Training- go through the positions, giving a few seconds to get into it 100% correctly or "punish". If feet are not correct, cane them, ass not sticking up quite high enough, spank it, etc
• Set up stations/activities around the apartment, have each room be a subscene

This next list is some things that we have done before that i enjoyed/want to try again

• Figging
• Fisting
• Rape/resistance play-the more i think about it the more i think it's the struggle/resistance/fight that i love, running away and being "caught", that kind of thing
• Knife play/cutting
• Orgasm denial, both extended and in a scene
• Puppy play
• Face slapping

She also posted a question on the ask a Dominant board on Fetlife seeing if She could get any suggestions on keeping the idea wheel running. Hopefully She'll get some good ideas there.

Have you got a suggestion as to how we can keep Lee from feeling stuck in a rut? Please leave a comment, we'd be more than grateful for the help ;)